Be Authentic

Trevor came in again the other day and I think he feels too comfortable with me. He tried getting a tab for his coffee. I tried to get him do odd jobs in exchange for free coffee but he refuses to work. Oh well!

This is when I realized I need to have boundary. As much as I wish to help someone, they themselves first must see the need and willingness to change. I cannot change anyone's life, even if I am God. Even God gives free will to us all homo- sapien.
Later, Trevor came and tried selling me women's clothing for coffee. I have to laugh at his creativity.

If anything needed change - it is myself. I am beginning to understand sometimes we can't have everything we want. And what we want may not be good for us - I can't see it at this moment. "I WANT IT"! is all I can think.

The more I isolate (myself), the more I get to see myself. Recently, I am beginning to become comfortable with self. Seeing all my quirks and weaknesses; willing my insecurities to come to the surface and deal with it slowly. To get clarity. I learned I must be authentic ; to self and to others. No assumption (according to Michael, a customer). Patiently waiting for myself to be ready to accept the revelations I see in my own heart.

So, when Ken Tolmie (need to brag a little since I do not have the chance to meet so many creative people all in the same day) and another famous writer came to my cafe two days in a row, I gave him my best service. And when I pointed out he has the same style as Alex Colville,
he went on to tell me Alex was his teacher. We talked, we laughed and he would point out to me the many famous people that walked into my cafe - namely Alice Munro.
There are a few more famous people that graced my cafe. All unknown to me. Yikes!
There is authentic communication and a mutual liking of the other. There is no pride, no arrogance and no pretention.

There is laughter and genuine authenticity. And I see that a lot with people in my cafe.